Hello

It is the things in life that you don’t do that you will regret, rather than the things that you did do. Yet, so many of us don’t do things for the strangest reasons. What if we did everything we wanted to do, and didn’t let excuses hold us back?

Does just reading that sentence bring up a state of unease in you? Do you immediately start thinking of WHY you can’t do something? Or did you say to yourself…right, let’s rip into it.

The number one reason for not doing what you want is fear. Fear is a very powerful emotion. Sometimes it can be present to protect us from getting hurt, which is a good thing…. “I won’t burn my hand on the kettle, as it will hurt”. What I want you to think about whilst reading this, is - how many times have you had unnecessary fear that stopped you from doing something great?

Often we can be afraid that we will fail. Let me tell you - if you don’t even start it, you have failed at it already.

Others fear what other people will think. They will think I am a food/silly/up myself etc etc. Well, do you place too much worth on their opinion? Maybe they will think these things about you anyway, even if you do it or not. Maybe the won’t even be thinking of at all, and you think yourself so important and they don’t.

Others fear success. What if I achieve what I set out to do, what then? Will more be expected of me? What if I do everything I want and become bored/ have to change my life?

Part of the path to success is knowing what your fears are, what is holding you back. Then you can make decisions. Sometimes it is like the nike expression - Just do it! Sometimes we need to get more information, or assistance, (like a coach!) or knowledge. Sometimes we need to do something else first.

Today, I ask each of you, do something towards your goals that you haven’t done before. Just one thing, one small step. Then tomorrow, do the same, and guess what, the day after that, do it again. In a week’s time, look back and see how far you have come, then look forward and be inspired by the journey ahead.

Lots of successes

Helen

Hello,

Happy New Year to everyone!!!!!!

Today, I want to share a quote with you: Act the part; walk and talk exactly as if you were already the person you want to be. Brian Tracy

Pause for a minute, and think what this means to you. When I first read this, I thought of the movie My Fair Lady, where the street urchin - played wonderfully by Audrey Hepburn - is tutored and trained to act and talk like a lady, and then is accepted in society as one.

When a person goes into a business meeting, they often wear a suit, and act professional. When an athlete trains, they wear the appropriate work out gear. What do you wear to be the person you want to be?

If you act and talk the way that you want to be, you are already being that person. Not only will other people accept you as that person, but importantly, you will begin to feel that you are. That is the most important factor! You will believe it, and once the belief comes, then the actions increase, and you will get the results you want.

Have a most outstanding day!

Helen

A couple of weeks ago, at one of my book signings, I spoke to a lovely man. He talked about my book, and we discussed novels that we both liked reading.

I mentioned the new book out by Mitch Albom - “Have A Little Faith”, and said I was going to buy it that day. He said that he was too, and we talked a bit about Mitch’s other books, especially “Tuesdays With Morrie” and “The Five People You Meet In Heaven”, both of which we had read and enjoyed.

The stranger went and bought my book, then returned for me to sign it for him. He had his copy of Have A Little Faith under his arm. I said casually, “I see you are all ready to read the book”. He smiled, held out the book, and said, “No, I bought this copy for you.”

My amazement was surely shown on my face. An amazing gesture of kindness. He said that he had enjoyed chatting with me, and wanted to buy me my copy of the book. I thanked him exceedingly, still blown away by this remarkable kindness.

Today, I read the book, and realised that my mysterious gift presenter must have already read the book. It touches your soul. It is a true story, a novel, about two men, a rabbi and a drug dealer. That is all I will share with you about the story. GO BUY THE BOOK, and then email me and we can chat about it.

I now want to go out and buy a copy for a stranger! You know that I will..

Kindess is something many people say they have and show, yet to do something without reward - A Random Act of Kindness, is amazing. Something we should do each day, yet few of us do. In giving we receive more back. I mentioned this in the acknowledgements of my own book, saw it in action again, then was reminded of it in this book.

I will quote one paragraph to you that had me truly inspired..it is about different people, different religions, different everything …. “That is the beauty. It’s like being a musician. If you found the note, and you kept hitting that note all the time, you would go nuts. It’s the blending of the different notes that makes the music.”

As we find ourselves in the time of year traditionally set aside for short tempers and even shorter fuses, stop and listen to the music, celebrate the differences.

Helen

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With just over a month to go before 2009 waves a farewell and we welcome in 2010, people often decide New Year’s Resolutions. They may look at their desires and goals that they haven’t achieved in the past and become inspired to action them in the future. Some say, in the next twelve months, I will do this and this and this, and they do become very excited about their possible achievements. Does any of this sound familiar?

There is a saying, “most people overestimate what they can do in one year, and underestimate what they can do in seven years!” As a society in general, we are after the quick fix, and if we dont get it on the first or second go, “the instant reward” we give up. It’s too hard, I dont have enough time, I’m not smart enough, I dont have enough money, It wasnt meant to be…. These are just excuses for why you dont have, or havent done the things you dreamt about.

As a coach, I work with my clients so they do achieve their desires, goals and dreams. We work together to achieve consistancy, the growth towards these goals, the continuous improvements, the getting back after you have fallen down, the release of your limiting beliefs.

As you ponder what the future holds, dont wait for the midnight bell to toll as Dec 31 leaves and January 1 arrives. Take action today, right now. As you read this, go create a plan, start, take action TODAY! Then keep taking steps towards what you desire. If you need help along the way, reach out and ask, grab it, expand your positive environment, surround yourself with people who believe in you.

Make today the day you begin! Make today the day you increase your actions!

Kind thoughts

Helen

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Hello

When you are single and dating, the issue of getting and giving telephone numbers can be confusing.

Does the male ask the female, or is it ok for a girl to ask a bloke?

When do you ring them after getting the number, is the same day too soon, or a week after too late?

How many times should you leave a message that is not returned?

Is it better to send a text or ring?

It’s enough to make you stay single, and never talk to anyone on the phone again!

Yet, there are a few base rules that should be remembered.

Don’t give out your number unless you want the person to call you, and don’t collect a number from someone if you have no intention of ringing them.

It is always better to get their number than it is to give yours out. You have the control of when to ring, rather than waiting for them to ring you.

Ring within 3 days of getting their number. It shows interest. If in doubt ask, “When is the best time to ring you?”

A question for yourself is “Why?” Why do you want to talk to the person on the phone? Make it fun, make it a call that they will remember,  make it a call that they will look forward to repeating.

Ciao

Helen

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Hi

The last few weeks have been very busy, and a lot of fun! My books have been printed, and distributed to all those who pre-ordered. Thanking you exceedingly for your orders and support.

Angus and Robertson are also distributing the books in their stores. (or available online at www.thelistbook.net).

I have done 2 book signings already and have another 9 to go this year, in various stores.

Being an avid reader and buyer of books, it was a very humbling and exciting experience being an author at a book signing. Some people come up and talk to you in awe. Some people are interested in how you became an author. Some people want to just chat with you. Some people want to buy the book. Everyone is fascinating. It wasn’t until I packed up on Saturday that I took a second to look around the bookshop.

I love bookshops, the smell, the knowledge of discoveries and adventures within each turning of the page. As I looked around, I saw MY BOOK! on the shelf. It was a very surreal moment. I realised with a rush that my dream had in fact really truly come to fruition. I was an author, I was standing in a book shop, seeing my book on the shelf, seeing people buying it, and benefiting from it.

I immediately said a thanks to the higher power, and a thanks to everyone who made this possible. Whilst being humble, you can still take pride in your achievements.

Here is the hope that everyone of you who buy my book, or tell others about it… enjoy it, benefit from it, take steps from it.

Always, with fondness and caring

Helen

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Yes, it is 100 days until 2009 rolls into 2010. Another year gone, a new year to look forward to.

On New Year’s Eve 2009 will you be saying… “I wish I had done xyz this past year”, or will you be saying “Look at all I have achieved this past year”?

People, I am telling you, be the second voice! Use this next 100 days to do the things that you want to do. Write a list of 100 things, do one a day, and ta da! they will all be done by NYE. Write 200 things, do 2 a day… you get my drift!

Take ACTION now. Do it NOW. Everything that you tell me, or yourselves, or the next door neighbour that you want to get done by the end of the year, you have 100 more days to do it in.

What are you going to do today?

Take care

Helen

Hello

This year has been particularly hard on my children. There has been the death of a loved grandfather, a loved great-grandmother and recently, a beloved father.

Last week, I received a phone call from my eldest daughter, begging me for family photographs. I have scanned most of their photos into my computer (see previous blogs), yet recently discovered a new plastic storage container filled with pictures and photos that I forgot about. I am scanning these as I write this blog. It is yet another wonderful trip down memory lane, seeing my now grown children back when they were babies and youngsters. Oh, and seeing how YOUNG I was!

One of the hardest things after the death of a loved one, is going through their possessions, the story of their lives.  My grandmother was 89 when she passed on, and most of her family knew what she wanted done with her treasures. But what about the person who dies of a sudden heart attack, without warning, and young?

On reflection, if we were to suddenly pass on, are our things in order? Would it be a nightmare for our loved ones to sort out our estate, or would it be a trip down memory lane? How prepared are you to make things easy for those you leave behind?

Helen

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Greetings!

Do you feel overwhelmed? Is life often spinning out of control? There are so many things you want and need to do, everyone wanting your attention at the same time? Do you sometimes just want to stand still, cover your ears and scream out “STOP!” at the top of your lungs?

Well, the good news is that most people feel this way, and quite a lot of people feel this way most of the time.

Is that the good news? Good news in that you are not the only one going through it, and good news in that by recognising you are overwhelmed, now you can do something about it!

First thing (Guess what, its a list!) - find a quiet place and list down ALL the things that are overwhelming you at the moment. Have a cup of tea or glass of wine handy (glass, not bottle!).

Once you have your list, prioritise things. 1-3. 1 is for the things on your list that are top priority, life or death. 2 is for things that are urgent yet can wait. 3 is for the not so urgent things. Now that you have that done are  you still feeling AS overwhelmed? Hopefully not.

Have a quick look at the number 3s on the list. Do they actually need to be done? Can you delegate to someone else to do them? Can you delay getting them done?

Now to the number 1s, can you delegate? Can you get someone else to help you?  Can you contact anyone to reprioritise or reschedule items on the list, are some of the items able to be moved to number 2s?

The same with the number 2s. Often we become overwhelmed by thinking that everything needs to be done by us, and noone else, right away. By prioritising their importance, we can often see that in fact not everything is as urgent as we first thought. It is about reassessing and often rescheduling, so that we can do the things we can, when we can.

For help on prioritising and stopping the overwhelming feelings taking over, contact Helen for a clearing session.

Helen

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Hi  

I am hoping that everyone reading this can something special for both myself and people they know.

My book (the first ever book I have written!!) – “The List Book, how to organise your life in simple steps” is now finished, and will be printed and published in October 2009. It will also be available in Angus & Robertson bookshops later in the year.

Can you please pass on this email to everyone you know, so they can pre order the book. People can pre-order from now, and the books will be sent when they are printed in October, at www.thelistbook.net. You can order and pay online with paypal.

 Thanks in advance for doing this. The book also makes a great gift for Christmas, weddings etc.

Cheers

Helen

The List Book

- How to Organise Your Life in Simple Steps

by

Helen Avaient

to be published in October 2009

Pre-order your copy now, and have it personally signed by the author

www.thelistbook.net

Ø     Listmaking is easy

Ø     Have all your lists in one place

Ø     Easy to copy for personal use, and rough drafts

Ø     Add to your lists whenever you want

Ø     Get ideas out of your head and onto paper

Ø     All you need is this book and a pen or pencil

Ø     Form valuable patterns

Over 180 lists including:

Ø     Shopping lists

Ø     To do lists

Ø     Lists for Christmas and holidays, birthday parties

Ø     Births, dating, weddings, children, funerals

Ø     Lists to make your life more organised and successful

$35 per book  + $4.95 postage and handling

(10% of the profits of the book are donated

by the author to Autism Queensland)