Greetings!

Do you feel overwhelmed? Is life often spinning out of control? There are so many things you want and need to do, everyone wanting your attention at the same time? Do you sometimes just want to stand still, cover your ears and scream out “STOP!” at the top of your lungs?

Well, the good news is that most people feel this way, and quite a lot of people feel this way most of the time.

Is that the good news? Good news in that you are not the only one going through it, and good news in that by recognising you are overwhelmed, now you can do something about it!

First thing (Guess what, its a list!) - find a quiet place and list down ALL the things that are overwhelming you at the moment. Have a cup of tea or glass of wine handy (glass, not bottle!).

Once you have your list, prioritise things. 1-3. 1 is for the things on your list that are top priority, life or death. 2 is for things that are urgent yet can wait. 3 is for the not so urgent things. Now that you have that done are  you still feeling AS overwhelmed? Hopefully not.

Have a quick look at the number 3s on the list. Do they actually need to be done? Can you delegate to someone else to do them? Can you delay getting them done?

Now to the number 1s, can you delegate? Can you get someone else to help you?  Can you contact anyone to reprioritise or reschedule items on the list, are some of the items able to be moved to number 2s?

The same with the number 2s. Often we become overwhelmed by thinking that everything needs to be done by us, and noone else, right away. By prioritising their importance, we can often see that in fact not everything is as urgent as we first thought. It is about reassessing and often rescheduling, so that we can do the things we can, when we can.

For help on prioritising and stopping the overwhelming feelings taking over, contact Helen for a clearing session.

Helen

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Hi  

I am hoping that everyone reading this can something special for both myself and people they know.

My book (the first ever book I have written!!) – “The List Book, how to organise your life in simple steps” is now finished, and will be printed and published in October 2009. It will also be available in Angus & Robertson bookshops later in the year.

Can you please pass on this email to everyone you know, so they can pre order the book. People can pre-order from now, and the books will be sent when they are printed in October, at www.thelistbook.net. You can order and pay online with paypal.

 Thanks in advance for doing this. The book also makes a great gift for Christmas, weddings etc.

Cheers

Helen

The List Book

- How to Organise Your Life in Simple Steps

by

Helen Avaient

to be published in October 2009

Pre-order your copy now, and have it personally signed by the author

www.thelistbook.net

Ø     Listmaking is easy

Ø     Have all your lists in one place

Ø     Easy to copy for personal use, and rough drafts

Ø     Add to your lists whenever you want

Ø     Get ideas out of your head and onto paper

Ø     All you need is this book and a pen or pencil

Ø     Form valuable patterns

Over 180 lists including:

Ø     Shopping lists

Ø     To do lists

Ø     Lists for Christmas and holidays, birthday parties

Ø     Births, dating, weddings, children, funerals

Ø     Lists to make your life more organised and successful

$35 per book  + $4.95 postage and handling

(10% of the profits of the book are donated

by the author to Autism Queensland)

Hi

I received this email from a friend last week. Normally, I read these types of emails and then delete them. After thinking about this one for days, I want to share it with you, and then some comments afterwards.

http://www.shesaid.com.au/Article.aspx?n=45955659

Hi

Please follow the link above to go to my newest magazine article.

Have a great day!

Helen

Hello

Apologies for not blogging recently. There are many excuses, and together they were big, so I apologise.

Today, I had the greatest opportunity to reconnect with a wonderful person in Western Australia. I met Bernadette in Sydney last year. She is a fabulous woman, and a great, creative artist.

I very much admired the way she dressed. Bernadette makes these most amazing silk creations. You can check out her website: http://www.handmadebuy.com/artist_bernadette_aitken.

Life is enhanced when you connect with others. When people enter your environment it expands your knowledge, your social contacts, your business contacts, your belief systems, your networking opportunities (both social and business). At the same time, the wrong people entering your environment can have the opposite effect. Negative and destructive aspects of a persons personality can be destructive to you and your circle. Choose wisely.

Enhancing my life and environment recently are all the fantastic people I have met at Singles Mingles dinners. There are now 7 dating relationships formed from these dinners, and many more friendships. It is fantastic and a blessing to be able to intertwine with such fabulous people.

Presenting motivational speaking on P&O cruise ships I get to meet absolutely amazing people. Dave Gray (usually referred to as Ugly Dave Gray), was also onboard the ship. I had the true pleasure of dining with Dave and his beautiful wife each night. The things I learnt and shared with these two was amazing. The dinners were a true joy and are now a fantastic memory.

Expand your environment with positive, beautiful people and watch how you grow yourself. It is a blessing. (and for each of you who read my blogs - and hence, are in my environment and I in yours, much thanks)

Helen

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AHHH!

How many times recently I have heard the words, “But I don’t look my age!” So, I add ten years onto their age and say, “why, do you look XX years old?”

Does the age we are matter?

Victor Hugo once said, “Forty is the old age of youth, fifty is the youth of old age”.

What is age? We measure our age in the years since our birth. Some people “act” their age, other’s don’t. (Whatever that means).

If we date or marry someone a lot younger than ourselves or a lot older than ourselves, is that OK?

At the end of our lives, I feel that looking back, it will be the things that I didn’t do that I regret the most, rather than the things I did. Fit into your life - (your age), a lot of living. When we pass away, on our tombstones it will list our birth year, a dash, and our death year. Make the most of the dash, regardless of the numbers listed. I would rather people say, “Helen lived every single one of her years”, rather than, “Helen lived for xx years.”

Have a fabulous, fun filled day!

Helen

Ah, another task!

Tomorrow, do this tomorrow! It is such a great concept that you will want to try it as often as you can.

Expect A Miracle!

When you wake up in the morning, think to yourself… “today, I am going to expect a miracle. There will be at least one miracle, and I will be there to experience it.”

Look for the miracle everywhere. See it in all the people and circumstances around you. See it in the environment, and in your experiences.

Then let us know, post a comment on here of the miracles you see!

My miracle today, was seeing four people working together to complete a project that began as an idea five years ago. As the final steps were put into place, and we could sit back in awe and wonder, I knew that to conceive it, to breath life into it, to watch it come closer and closer to completion, and to keep glimpsing the end result was a miracle. I expected it, I accomplished it. Now, I celebrate it.

Kindest thoughts to all of you… and I am waiting to see what you see…

Helen

Hi

Technology can make our lives easier. Microwave ovens Vs Conventional Ovens. Mobile phones Vs Land lines. The list is exhaustive.

Whilst talking with people, it often comes up that each of them have special technology that they find useful, but don’t often share with others. Today, I want to share a couple of devices that I use, which helps my life enormously. I would love to hear comments and shared thoughts from you!

Two computer monitors. I have two computer monitors set up from my computer, and could never go back to one. On the left is my email/calendar. Available there at all times, no toggling between screens. One of the monitors is also a TV screen (love that technology). I have a TV card in my computer, and  I can record shows (same as a VCR or DVD recorder) to watch later.

Skype or any VOIP. These programs are fantastic. A headset with a microphone is really all that is needed. Plugged into the computer, and withe the program, I can talk to people via the internet, at minimal or no cost.

Cordless telephone and headsets. A cordless telephone lets you walk around the house etc, talk in bed, outside in the garden, have the phone near you at all times. Even better is that my cordless home phone has a headset. This way I dont hold the phone between my ear and shoulder when talking and doing something else (I have had a disc fusion in the past due to continued use of this at work). You can clean out your fridge, exercise, multi task, whilst talking on the phone.

All-in-one printer, scanner etc. This multi function centre is very useful, and takes up a lot less space on your computer desk that 3 machines. I scan all my paid bills, important documents, photos etc to my computer (and other electronic storage devices). Easy to find, less paper filing etc.

Now, that is a few of my wonderful devices, let’s hear yours!

Cheers

Helen

Hi

It became increasingly apparent in the last six months, that a lot of people in country and rural areas do not have the social networks that they desire. In days gone by there were dances, and lots of social functions where singles could interact and meet each other. Nowadays, it seems the pub or online meetings are more common.

Part of my personal and business mission statement is “contribution and connection with others”, and listening to what people were saying, I decided to host a Singles Mingles dinner at the restaurant of a friend in Ipswich. It went extremely well. The local newspaper ran a story on the dinner, and people flocked to come. They wanted to meet other single people in a social, friendly atmosphere, without any pressure to date. A lot of people were looking for others that shared common interests, some were looking for romance, and all wanted a great meal in a lovely restaurant with fantastic people.

Again, listening to the needs of the people, it was decided that this dinner/social event needed to be held on a regular, once a month, basis at a variety of venues.

Hence, Singles Mingles was created. People attend a dinner in a restaurant, and I host the evening. There is a fun quiz (with prizes) held during the evening, and the aim is to get people talking to, and beginning to know, each other. The quiz is very successful in doing this. Tables are usually set for six people, and each course the guests must change tables. This way they get to meet most of the other people there, and prevents a guest getting “stuck” at the one place all night.

Upcoming events include; a pizza and pasta night, a 3 course roast dinner at a winery, a murder mystery weekend in the haunted cellar of a country mansion, dinner in a country pub, etc etc

There is a presentation by me, (try to keep a motivational speaker from NOT talking at an event!) during the evening. I give a fun talk on dating and meeting people in the 21st century, and people can find out what I do as a dating and relationship coach. The guests can then ask questions. This is a very fun part of the evening.

Local newspapers, a national magazine, and various radio stations are all keen to promote these dinners. I have even been driving around putting up flyers at various General Stores in the country areas around me.

So, check out the new website www.singlesminglesqld.com.au. If you know any singles that might be interested, pass this information along. If you know any areas that want these events held, also, let me know.

Cheers

Helen

I love quotes, for many reasons. A quote can stick in your head and make you think about it for days. A quote can show you an insight into the mind of the person who wrote it. A quote can clarify and make you look at situations in life differently.

Today, I will share some of my favourite quotes with you:

He who is bound to a star does not turn back - Leonardo Da Vinci

The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it - Michaelangelo

Far away there in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead - Louisa May Alcott

I don’t know if I can have it all, but I do know that I want it all - Madonna

To accomplish great things, we must not only act but also dream, not only plan but also believe - Anatole France

Your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other one thing - Abraham Lincoln

We learn wisdom from failure much more than from success. We often discover what will do by finding out what will not do; and probably he who never made a mistake never made a discovery - Samuel Smiles

Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavour - Truman Capote

Abolish fear and you can accomplish whatever you wish - Elbert Hubbard

You must do the thing you think you cannot do - Eleanor Roosevelt

You either evolve or you dissolve - Kurek Ashley

 The difference between a successful man and others is not in the lack of strength, nor in the lack of knowledge, but rather in the lack of will - Vince Lombardi

(Just a few quotes - if you have any that are special to you, let me know)

Many best wishes

Helen